‘Hey crush, I like you'
Is there someone you really like, but you just can’t muster up the courage to tell them in case they don’t feel the same way? Laura Mazzitelli is here to give you a little pep talk.
Ever been so memorised or blown away by someone, which leads to a huge, uncontrollable crush on them?
Or perhaps, you are still pining over that same person you’ve liked since... forever?
If your answer is a shameful yes to either of the above, maybe it’s time to tackle this issue head on.
So many people have been in this exact spot you’re in now. If it’s the old ‘I like someone, but I can’t tell them in fear of rejection’, then keep reading.
Perhaps you want to tell them how you feel, but go back and forth.
You ask your friend: ‘should I tell them?’
Your friend says ‘YES DO IT’ and hypes you up.
You’re ready to confess: ‘Okay yep, I’m so gonna tell them. All I gotta do is pick my moment.’
Suddenly you’ve had a change of mind: ‘actually no. If I tell them, then I’m going to make a fool of myself, and they’re going to tell everyone and I’m going to have to move to overse....’
Sound like you? Time to nip this overthinking spiral in the bud, my friend. There are ways to rationalise having a crush in your mind in order to gain the courage to tell them how you feel IRL. Who knows, by the end of this article you may realise what you can do… And maybe it’s not too late to tell them!
Let’s break this down.
Maybe the person you’re still crushing on once liked you, and it was only later you felt the same way.
But now, to your despair, your crush is with someone else.
Or... maybe they never did feel that way about you, and you just can’t seem to let it go.
Whether it’s an ex or a friend you’re still all emotionally wrapped up in, TRULY ask yourself - is there a chance they feel the same way? Have you even TOLD them how you feel?
If you’ve just been too chicken to admit it to them, then why? If they are single, and nothing valid is stopping you, just do it! In most cases, doing this will give you one of two responses:
1. They like you back.
2. They don’t.
... but there’s a silver lining to number two: You can finally move on.
Sure, it seems simple in writing, and maybe it’ll be awkward for a bit, but both responses can lead to positive outcomes. We can’t help who we like, but we can help how we deal with it.
Telling your crush you like them can be really frightening, but it’s nothing compared to the relief you feel once it’s all out in the open.
Chances are, internalising your emotions will be more torturous long term than ripping off the band-aid and telling them now, especially if they are currently your friend and you see them all the time. Following through may result in either being able to create something really special with this person, or learning how to deal with rejection, which can be character building for future cases where things may not go your way.
Whatever the outcome, your confession would be a learning curve... and at the very least, the person on the receiving end will be flattered. Remember, they would’ve most likely had a secret crush on someone at some stage too, so they would know how you feel.
Having the guts to come out with it, by spitting in the face of fear, may give you some inner-confidence, or that answer you need to either pursue something, or move on.
But this might not be the case for you at all. Maybe you have reached a point where you feel there is just no hope left for you and your crush, but STILL can’t help liking them. Well… sorry to be blunt, but if this is you, it’s time to move on.
Laura Mazzitelli is a third year UTS student studying a combined degree in Communications (Journalism) and Law. She is a music and coffee enthusiast, but her true passion is writing, and has been since her early teens.