How to survive long-distance friendships
Can friendships last over a long distance? Sevin Pakbaz explains how they can, with a little bit of effort from both sides.
Everyone has one friend who they love with all their heart. Everything is so wholesome and effortless … until they break your heart and move to another country. Now who are you going to go out with for late night boogies to cringe songs? Who will spend way too much money with you on brunch after a bender? Having your confidant move across the globe is very difficult but trust me when I say that there are ways to ease the pain and keep the relationship strong.
1. Keep in contact
You obviously don't have to cut out your best pal after they've moved away – in fact, you should try to stay in as much contact with them as possible! Calls and Facetime are definitely the most fulfilling because they feel authentic, and you can see your beautiful friend's face/hear your beautiful friend's voice. Keep them in the loop about your love life (or lack of), career updates, any juicy tea, and just check in with how you're both going. It's also important to note that we all get busy in life, so it's okay not to be constantly talking. But make sure you aren’t completely ghosting them!
2. Communicate using different social media platforms
Although social media is a little superficial at times, it is actually a great thing to have when your friend isn’t close by. Thank god for Snapchat streaks and Facebook memes, amiright! These small things on social media definitely make a big impact, and there is nothing better to wake up to a funny meme from your friend on the other side of the world. Talking on different platforms also allows for five different conversations at one time – who doesn’t love that?
3. Put up photos
Here's a fact: putting photos of people you love around your room makes you feel all warm and fluffy. Print out photos of your friends that have moved away and plaster them across all your walls, and start reminiscing about the good times. It's a reminder of their constant support despite them being so far away.
4. Do NOT forget birthdays!
If you want to maintain a long-distance friendship, you need to keep celebrating milestones together, as it's a great way to remind them how much they mean to you. So make sure you wish them a happy birthday (despite the time difference). Hey, why not send them a cheeky card!
5. Make plans to meet up
At the end of the day, you probably want to maintain this friendship because the person is important to you, and you can see them in your life for a very long time. So it's actually very logical to set some kind of a goal to meet up in the future, whether it's just for a short catch up or a massive trip around the world. If you set goals to meet up, it’ll also be something you’ll both look forward to!
Long distance friendships aren’t all that miserable if there is mutual effort and constant communication, and with the right friend it should be quite easy. Despite not being able to go for fries after a big night out, or having spontaneous hangouts whenever you want, there is always hope that you will meet up in the future if you make that a goal. Shout out to all my long-distance best friends for always showing me love and support despite the time difference, and proving that long distance friendships are very possible. Check out this BuzzFeed article for a laugh and send it to your long distance friend!
Sevin Pakbaz is a third year Journalism and Law student, who loves to blow her money on expensive vegan desserts. Her passion for true crime stories and volunteering keeps her occupied when she should be catching up on uni